Author Cameron D. Wheeler shares his personal struggles and the power of decision making in his latest book, One Decision Away 978-1951630423. After the sudden passing of his mother, Wheeler faced many struggles in life. He indulged in different addictions and found himself in a very low place in life. Nothing seemed to be going right for him. But soon, Wheeler realized that only one person had the power to change his life around. And that person was Wheeler, himself. Once, he understood the power he had to make his own decisions and choices, Wheeler was determined to transform his life for good.
With One Decision Away, Wheeler hopes to inspire people, who are dealing with similar problems as he once did and helping them understand that they have the power to change their life for the better. Often we are quick to list all the things that we need to change our life. But we never pay attention to what is actually stopping us from bringing about this change. If we bring our focus to what is holding us back and change that, we can make a great improvement to our life. We can escape the cycle that entraps us in a bad place in life. According to Brianna Wiest, here several things that might be holding us back from improving our lives:
· Your pride
“Through pride, we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience, a still, small voice says to us, something is out of tune. ” ― C.G. Jung
To change your life, you have to admit what’s not working. You have to humble yourself. You have to ask for help. You have to learn, and you have to accept it. Your ego will defend your current circumstances, but you cannot allow a fleeting feeling of shame to eclipse reason. You cannot live the rest of your life as you are just because you are too prideful to admit something isn’t right.
· Your emotional crutches
"Courage is feeling fear, not getting rid of fear, and taking action in the face of fear.” — Roy T. Bennett
Do you know why you haven’t yet changed your life, why you’re stuck, stagnant, and still making excuses? Because you are leaning on emotional crutches. Staying small, being afraid, remaining controlled, and refusing to take action are all symptomatic of not wanting to lose that which is familiar, known, and dependable.
· Your avoidance techniques
“Me with nothing left to lose, plotting my big revenge in the spotlight. Give me violent revenge fantasies as a coping mechanism.” — Chuck Palahniuk
Whatever you are doing to numb the nagging feeling that something isn’t right––whether it’s eating, drinking, sexing, whatever––you cannot push that feeling away any longer. It is not here to torture you needlessly, it is here to inform you. It is here to instruct. The first step is to remove the coping mechanisms. The second is to listen.
· Your hedonism
“Pleasures will never make us whole.” –– Eric Greitens
It’s counterintuitive, but living the life of your dreams very infrequently involves responding to your impulse desires. In fact, deeply fulfilled and wildly successful individuals understand that pursuing pleasure is a dead end, a road that leads to confusion, sickness, and laziness.
· Your comfort zone
“The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, at ease, and secure. You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.” — Roy T. Bennett
Leaving your comfort zone is not as simple as challenging yourself to feel a little uncomfortable now and again. In reality, it’s more like stepping into a new life wherein everything is unknown and anything is possible and all of it is terrifying. When you truly step out of your comfort zone, you step into a new life, and with repetition and time, that becomes your new sense of familiarity. Always be aware of what you are conditioning yourself to be comfortable with.
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