Traditional perspectives (and research) say that good communication can improve interpersonal relationships, increase affection, trust, and support. The opposite of this can also be true that is poor communication can weaken relationships, cause stress, distrust, and even contempt! Since conflict is actually inevitable in a relationship (not necessarily a sign of trouble), if you have the information and skills to handle conflict in a healthy way, you can reduce a lot of stress and strengthen the relationship at the same time.
Also, Martha Inchaurregui-Smith writes in her book "Girl Without A Soul," that being the favorite child, she was always ditched by her siblings. The book explains how she managed to survive a complicated situation and faced everything with courage.
However, this article highlights the common mistakes to avoid when it comes to conflict resolution.
1) Brushing under the carpet
One common mistake people make when resolving conflicts is that they avoid conflict resolution altogether. Avoiding conflict can reduce the pressure at the time, but it usually brings more problems. If a dispute cannot be resolved in a timely and effective manner, the pressure will increase, and abominations will increase, and this may exaggerate the conflict. Dealing with the conflicts in an emphatic way is an excellent way of resolving the dispute.
2) Defensive Attitude
Another common mistake people make when resolving conflicts is defensiveness. Defensive people do not entirely reject the other's views but are prepared to understand the other's perspective and firmly deny any wrongdoing. They avoid self-reflection and eliminate the possibility that they may cause problems. Refusing to take responsibility in this way can cause long-term problems because conflicting partners will not feel listened to and cause unresolved conflicts to continue to grow.
3) Generalizing
Some people blow through conflict by making broad generalizations. When confronted with conflict or disagreement, they start with sentences like "You always "and "You never." These statements are usually widespread and untrue. Resolving a conflict like this is not constructive, and finding a satisfactory solution with such sentences will be difficult and almost impossible.
4) Being Blameless
There can be a "factual" way of looking at things and a "fictitious" way as well. Problems arise when one thinks that the way they see things is the only correct way to observe the situation. However, it is essential to acknowledge the views of others and not treat them as personal attacks. There is not always "right" or "wrong," and both opinions can be established. The fourth common mistake is being right all the time and thinking you are blameless!
5) Self-Assumptions
People generally assume the opinions and their feelings of others about the situation. Often, these assumptions lead to negative conclusions about the thoughts and behavior of others. Likewise, psychoanalysis produces hostility and misunderstanding in people. Therefore, it is essential to remember that everyone has their own opinions. Avoiding making assumptions will make it easier to resolve conflicts.
6) Not listening
Some people bother, roll their eyes, or practice what to say next instead of listening and trying to understand their conflicting family members. It prevents them from seeing the other side's point of view. Listening and empathizing with others is a real value and is a crucial factor in making any conflict resolution process successful.
7) Blaming Others
Some people deal with conflict by criticizing and accusing other people. They believe that admitting any of their faults weakens their credibility and should avoid doing so at all costs. They then attempt to pass the blame on to others to avoid making mistakes. It can be an insurmountable problem. Everyone must participate in the conflict resolution process to resolve the conflict, which is very important. The key is finding a solution, not sharing responsibilities.
In conclusion, part of successful conflict resolution involves recognizing the common mistakes people make when resolving conflicts. Having this information can help you avoid these mistakes and correct them in the conflict resolution process.
Author's Bio:
Martha Inchaurregui Smith is a woman who faced many difficulties in her life, still lives a dream life that people can only imagine. The book "Girl Without A Soul" consists of all the dreadful events from her childhood to marriage and enlightens how one should face such hindrances and achieve their goals.
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